Backbiting (Gheebat)

by **Noor'e Sahar** Fri Aug 06, 2010 12:57 am

Definition of Gheebah (Backbiting)
A backbiter is called Mughtaab. Gheebah is to talk about your
brother/sister in such a manner that he/she would dislike it if told
about it. Whether you talk about a physical defect, lineage, manners,
conduct, faith or even his clothes, house or mode of transportation -
all those constitute Gheebah. With reference to a person's body, it
could be stated that he is bald, short, tall, black, yellow, or giving
any physical description the person does not like. In regards to family
tree, it could include stating that his father is a Bedouin, a garbage
collector, cobbler, or anything that he may dislike. In regards to
manners and conduct, it could include stating that he has bad manners,
is stingy, arrogant, a coward, is weak-hearted, irresponsible or the
like. In regards to his deeds associated with religion, it could include
statements such as he is a thief, a liar, drunkard, treacherous, an
oppressor, careless about Salah or Zakah, saying he doesn't perfect his
Ruku' or Sujood, he is not careful about avoiding Najasah (impurities),
isn't dutiful to his parents or he doesn't pay Zakah to the right
persons, doesn't distribute Zakah correctly, or he doesn't guard his
Sawm (fasting) from obscenity, backbiting, or talking ill about others.
In regards to his deeds associated with daily living, it could include
statements such as he has no manners with people, he talks too much, he
always sleeps even when it is not time to sleep, or he sits where he
shouldn't. Gheebah statements about someone's clothing could include
statements such as his sleeve is wide, his thobe (shirt) is long, or
that his clothes are dirty.

The Prophet (pbuh) defined backbiting when he said: "Do you know what is meant by backbiting?""Allah and His Messenger know best." He said, "To say something about your brother which he dislikes." One asked, "Even if what I say is true about my brother?" He replied, "If
such defects you say are true about him, then you have backbitten him,
and if he doesn't have what you say, then you have committed slander
against him." (Related by Muslim, Abu Dawood, and Tirmidhi) They said,

Hence, it is not allowed to talk about somebody in his/her absence,
even if what was narrated was true. If it was not true, then it would be
a bigger sin and it is called Buhtan (false accusation).
Talking about someone else's fault - even in the absence of that
person - with the intention of saving someone from that person's harm or
of getting someone's help in correcting these faults or of recording
one's grievances with the authorities or of any other imaginable
positive reason to discuss such faults, should not be considered as
Gheebah.
It is important to note that to find other's faults or to talk
sarcastically or to defame a person is called 'Lumz'. In the Qur'an,
Allah states: "Do not defame one another." (Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:11)
It means that when you find faults in others, they will turn around and find faults in you.
The beauty of this wording of the Qur'an is that it says that finding faults in others is like finding faults in you.
Just like Allah states: "Do not kill yourself." Hence, if you kill others, they will try to kill you. Allah also says in the Qur'an: "Woe to every slanderer and back-biter!" (Surah Al-Humazah, 104: 1)
Allah (SWT) made it clear that defaming another Muslim in his/her
absence is like eating the flesh of one's dead brother (49:12), which
obviously, everybody hates. Hence, it is the most dreadful sin. Note
that if the person is present, he/she may have a chance to defend
himself/herself, although everybody does not have the courage to defend
themselves in these circumstances. If, however, he/she is defamed in
his/her absence, the damage is deep and somewhat permanent.
The tongue alone does not do backbiting; it can also be done with the
eyes, hands and other movements. For example, imitating somebody who is
limping, in order to insult him/her.
Muhammad Rasool Allah (SAS) said: " Backbiting is a worse sin than adultery." It is further explained in a saying of the Prophet (SAS), narrated by Abu Sa'eed and Jubair in Bayhaqi: "Allah
may forgive a person if he/she repents after committing adultery.
However, Allah will not forgive the one who backbites, till his/her
victim forgives him/her."
One time, the Messenger of Allah pointed towards two graves and said
to his companions that both of these people are being punished in their
graves. One of them used to backbite people and the other was not
careful about spilling drops of urine of his clothes and body whilst
urinating.
The Prophet (SAS) during his Me’raj journey saw some people who had
nails made of red copper. They were tearing apart their faces and chests
with these nails. The Noble Prophet asked the Angel Jibrail (AS) about
them, He said, “They are being punished because they used to eat
people’s flesh in their lives, i.e. used to backbite and defame others.
Abu Hurayra (RA) narrates that the Noble Prophet (SAS) said, “The
killing of a Muslim by another unjustly, usurping others’ wealth or
defaming other Muslims is totally forbidden (or Haram).” (Sahih Muslim)
Note that listening to backbiting is the same as backbiting somebody. It is better to walk away from such individuals.
Backbiting violates the rights of Allah and the rights of people
simultaneously. Hence, it is necessary to ask for forgiveness from the
victim first, since Allah will not forgive until the victim forgives. If
the victim has died or is untraceable, then ransom has to be paid. Anas
(RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (SAS) said, “The ransom for backbiting is to pray to Allah for forgiveness by saying, “ O Allah! Forgive my sins and his too.”
Making Fun
Backbiting (Gheebah) can even be making fun of a person. The Prophet
(SAS) vigorously opposed all aspects of backbiting even when it occurred
in his own family. For example, once a woman visited Hadrat Aishah
(RAa) and when the woman got up to leave, Hadrat Aishah Siddiqua (RAa)
made a sign with her hand indicating to the Prophet (SAS) that the woman
was short of stature. The Prophet (SAS) immediately chastised her,
saying, "You have backbitten!" (Tirmidhi)
Imam Al- Nawawi, a great scholar, commented regarding the above
Hadith saying, "This Hadith is paramount with regard to backbiting and I
don't know anything more severe than this."
Nameemah (Tale carrying)
Nameemah is the use of speech by people against each other, wishing to cause corruption. ALLAH says in regard to this matter:
"...Neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to
eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it [so hate
backbiting]" (Surah Hujurat, 49:12)
The Prophet (SAS) has clearly stated, "The gossip-monger will not enter paradise"
(Bukhari, Muslim). Further, when the sin is injurious to others, Islam
does not distinguish between a Muslim and a non-Muslim victim. The
Muslim scholars generally consider backbiting of a non-Muslim unlawful.
Defamation, therefore is a crime punishable by the courts in addition to
being a matter of reckoning in the hereafter...
Guarding the Tongue
"And follow not that of which you have no knowledge. Verily!
The hearing, and the sight, and the heart of each of those ones will be
questioned." (17:36)
"Read! In the Name of your Lord Who has created. He has
created man from a clot. Read! And your Lord is the Most Generous. Who
has taught by the pen. He has taught man that which he knew not." (96:1-5)
It is well known that whoever guards his/her tongue will make fewer
mistakes. He will be in control of himself and avoid from falling into
something wrong. The Prophet (pbuh) guaranteed Paradise for one who
guards his/her mouth. He is reported to have said:
"Whoever gives me surety to safeguard what is between his
jaws and what is between his legs, I guarantee for him (entrance into)
Paradise." [What is between one's jaws is the Lisan (tongue); and what
is between the legs is the Farj (private parts)]."
Imam Nawawi said, "Be aware that it is incumbent upon every Mukallaf
(competent person in full possession of his faculties) to guard his
tongue against all kinds of talking except when it is evident that
talking will be a means of beneficence. When talking and being quiet are
both equal as a prudent measure, and then the Sunnah is to abstain from
talking. Sometimes even a lawful talking may lead to unlawful or
distasteful matters. This is a common practice, but there is nothing
equivalent to safety." If your tongue is right and straight then the
extremities will be straight. But if your tongue disobeys and indulges
in the private affairs and honor of people, then the extremities will
disobey and Allah's prohibitions will be violated. The Prophet (pbuh) is
reported to have said:
"When the son of Adam gets up in the morning, all parts of
his body deny the tongue saying, 'Fear Allah regarding us, we follow
you. If you are right we shall also be right, and if you go astray, we
shall also go astray." Nawawi said that denying the tongue
means to humiliate and submit. Al-Albani said, "It means that the
members consider the tongue as the one denying the favors."
The tongue is a great gift from Allah (SWT) and a marvelous creation.
The size may be small, but its capacity to obey or disobey can be
great. The Kufr (disbelief) can't be distinguished from Iman (faith)
except through the testimony of the tongue. Iman and Kufr are the
ultimate capacity to obey or disobey. The tongue has a very broad range
of functions. It has a large measure of good that can be performed and a
large measure of evil that can be inflicted. If one let go one's
tongue, Shaytaan will take him everywhere and lead him to an edge, then
allow him to fall for his own downfall. The only way to be saved from
the evils of the tongue is to restrain it with the bridle of the
Shari'ah (Islamic law). It should be used, but only for what is
beneficial in this life and the Hereafter.
Indeed the tongue controls the rest of your body. A well-controlled
tongue will keep us within Islam but a loose tongue will destroy us.
Instead of swearing, lying and engaging in useless talk we can use our
tongues in better ways and what better than telling people about Islam.
Allah says "Who is better in speech than one who calls (men) to
Allah and works righteousness and says I am one of those who bow down in
Islam" (41:33)
Shaikh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah
Shaikh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allah bless his soul, said: "It is
strange that a person may find it easy to protect himself from eating
Haraam, oppression and injustice, adultery, theft, drinking Khamr, and
from unlawful looking, but it is hard for him to restrain the movement
of his tongue. How often do we see people who are very cautious about
falling into shameful deeds or injustice, but their tongue lashes
against the living and the dead and they don't mind it."? He further
said: "Some people have the disease of criticizing all the time. They
forget the good about others and only mention their faults. They are
like flies that avoid the good and pure places and land on the bad
places and on wounds. This is because of the evil within the self and
the spoiled nature."

Prohibition of Gheebah
Allah has said:
"And spy not, neither backbite against one another. Would any
of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so
hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily Allah is the One Who accepts
repentance, Most Merciful." (49:12)
"And follow not that of which you have no knowledge. Verily!
The hearing, and the sight, and the heart of each of those ones will be
questioned." (17:36)
"Not a word does he (or she) utter, but there is watcher by him ready (to record it)." (50:18)
It was narrated by Abu Musa: "Some people asked Allah's Messenger (pbuh) whose Islam is the best?" (i.e., who is a very good Muslim?) The Prophet (SAS) replied, "One who avoids harming the Muslims with his tongues and hands." He is also reported to have said, "Whosoever
believes in Allah and the Last Day, should talk what is good or keep
quiet. Sometimes a person may utter a word to which he attaches no
importance and by it he falls into Hell farther than the distance
between the East and West."
"And the person may utter a word which displeases Allah
without thinking how serious it is, as a result of which Allah will
record His wrath for him, because of His displeasure until the Day when
he meets Him." (Related by Mu'atta Imam Malik and Tirmidhi).
'Uqbah Bin 'Aamer asked, "O Allah's Messenger (pbuh), what is salvation?" He said: "Control your tongue, keep inside your house, and weep for your sins." (Related by Tirmidhi)
In one Hadith, Allah's Messenger (pbuh) took hold of his tongue and then said, "Keep this under control." When the Sahaba asked, "will we be called to account for what we say?" He replied, "Won't the people be thrown face down into Hell on account of the produce of their tongues." (Related by Tirmidhi).
Now let us see the punishment of the person that backbites in this life and the Hereafter. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "O
you people who believe with their tongues (meaning those who pay
lip-service to faith), when faith has not entered their hearts, do not
backbite the Muslims and do not expose their faults. Whoever exposes the
faults of his Muslim brother, Allah will expose his faults. And if
Allah exposes his faults, his faults will be open for everyone even if
he would hide inside his house." (Related by Ahmad, Abu Dawood and Tirmidhi). Backbiting is prohibited by Ijmaa' (consensus). Imam Qurtubi said, "The
Ijmaa' is that Gheebah is a major sin and it necessitates repentance,
it is Wajib (obligatory) to turn to Allah in repentance from it."
Backbiting by writing
Gheebah can also be through writing, for the pen is one of two
tongues. This is the case when the person tells the truth about others.
It is Gheebah and he is Mughtaab, a backbiter. By doing this he disobeys
his Lord and he eats the flesh of his brother. But if he is lying then
he combines Gheebah and Kidhib (lying).
"When people mention others they may commit one of these three:
Gheebah, Buhtan and Ifk, and all are in the Book of Allah. Gheebah is to
say what is true about a person. Buhtan is to say what is not true
about a person. And Ifk is to say what was conveyed to you." Allah's
Messenger (pbuh) said: "All things belonging to a Muslim are unlawful for another Muslim: his blood, his property and his honor." (Muslim, Ahmad and Bayhaqi) Gheebah deals with honor and Allah has combined honor with property and blood.
Types of Gheebah
Gheebah has different forms and may take all kinds of means. The
worst type of Gheebah is the one that combines gossip and riyaa'. An
example would be when some person is mentioned and a man would say:
"Al-hamdu lillah that He didn't try us, we would have been tempted to
enter the doors of the sultan, or that we don't demean ourselves in
seeking the ruins of this world." Or one may say, "I seek refuge with
Allah from shamelessness. I ask Allah to protect me from such." The
intention here is to criticize the other person and it is done in the
form of a Du'a (supplication).
One may also praise another person but the intent is to criticize,
such as saying: "How good such-and-such person is, he never had a
shortcoming in his worship but now he is being lazy. He was tried with
something everyone of us is tried with, which is lack of patience." One
would criticize oneself but his/her intention is to criticize others by
doing this. At the same time he praises himself by showing that he is
righteous since he criticizes himself. In this case, he is Mughtaab,
Muraa'ee and praising himself. He combines three shameful deeds and
because of his ignorance he thinks that he is a righteous person who
would not make Gheebah.
Another form of Gheebah is that one criticizes another person, but
the people don't pay attention to what has been said. So he says,
"Subhaan Allah. How amazing!..." so the people may listen to him and
know what he is saying. Or he may say, "I was hurt to hear about our
friend and how he was humiliated. I ask Allah to relieve him." He is
actually lying about his concern regarding the friend, in his pretense
of making Du'a. If he meant to pray for him, he would have prayed for
him while alone.
The Motives for Gheebah
There may be numerous reasons to motivate one to make Gheebah. The following examples are among these reasons:
1. Lack of fear of Allah. Whoever feels the
greatness of Allah and acknowledges that Allah is watching all his deeds
and utterances, he would avoid anything that may displease Allah.
2. Getting things off one's chest. A person may do
something to upset another. Every time the aggrieved person feels angry
about it, he alleviates the anxiety by making Gheebah about the other
person.
3. Joining a group of friends. When a group is
engaged in a loose talk aimed at slandering others, a person may think
that if he speaks out and tries to stop them they may dislike him and
exclude him. So, he joins them in talking ill about others, assuring
that this is the only way to be acceptable to them.
4. Seeking to raise one's own status by putting down others.
A person may say: "So-and-so person is ignorant, he is not smart." The
intention is to praise oneself and show that he has more knowledge than
the other person.
5. Envy and jealousy. Some person may be praised by
people who like him. A jealous person may hear them and make Gheebah of
the other person, criticizing and insulting him, so that the people may
think differently about the person they have just praised.
Types of Permissible Gheebah
Gheebah is permissible for a sound religious purpose that cannot be
achieved except by using it. These permissible types of Gheebah are as
follows:
1. Complaint because of an injustice, such as
complaining to a ruler, judge or others in authority. A person may say
in this case: "I was treated unjustly by so-and-so in such and such
matter."
2. Seeking help to change a Munkar (wrong deed) and to correct the wrongdoers.
A person may say: "A person does such and such, so stop him." His
intention should be to check the Munkar. If this is not the case, then
the statement is Haraam.
3. Seeking a Fatwa. A person may state to the Imam,
Mufti or Shaikh, "My father, brother or so-and-so has treated me
unfairly. Is that act permissible? And how do I get out of this
situation? How do I obtain my rights?" This way of seeking a Fatwa is
permissible. However, it is safer and more preferable to say whatever
would be said about a non-specific person as doing such and such, as
anonymously as possible.
4. Warning Muslims against evil and advising them.
This could include criticism of untrustworthy narrators or witnesses.
This is permissible by Ijmaa', rather it is mandatory and the benefit is
very clear. Such as consulting in the matters of marriage or a business
partnership. In this case, the person consulted should not hide
anything about the concerned person. He should mention the faulty
qualities only with the intention of benefiting the consultant.
5. Mentioning the person who indulges in Haraam or Bid'ah openly.
This would include mentioning those who openly drink Khamr or those in
positions of authority doing wrong. It is permissible to mention the sin
of such a person. However, it is prohibited to mention the person with a
different sin unless there is a reason that makes it permissible to do
so for that sin.

6. Identifying a person. If a person is known by a
descriptive nickname, such as Al-A'mash (squint-eyed), Al-A'raj (one who
walks with a limp), or Al-Asamm (deaf), then it is permissible to use
these names for identification purposes. But it is not permitted to use
these names if the intention is to insult the person. If it is possible
to identify such person by using another descriptive name, then it is
better and preferable.
Kaffarah (Expiation) of Gheebah
Committing Gheebah is forbidden by the Ijmaa' of the scholars, and
considered a major sin. Scholars differ in the Kaffarah of the Mughtaab
(backbiter), but they all agree that he/she must make Tawbah as the
first step. Repentance itself has three conditions: refraining from the
sin, regret for the commission of the sin, and determination not to
commit it ever again. Repentance from Gheebah, however, has an
additional condition, a fourth one because the Mughtaab has actually
committed two offenses:
1. One offense is towards Allah (because he
committed an act which Allah has prohibited). The expiation is to turn
to Allah in repentance and to regret what has been done.
2. The other one is against Allah's creatures. If
the Gheebah has reached the person, then forgiveness must be sought from
him and regret must be expressed to him for what has been said. But if
the Gheebah didn't reach the person, then he should pray for the
person's forgiveness and not tell him something he didn't know anyway,
fearing that some evil may result from telling him.
The Cure for Gheebah
The Prophet (pbuh) is reported to have said: "Do you know who is bankrupt?" The Companions replied, "The bankrupt amongst us is the person who has no money or property." The Prophet (pbuh) said, "The
bankrupt from amongst my Ummah is the one who will come on the Day of
Resurrection with a good record of Salah, Sawm and Zakah. But he also
had cursed someone, slandered against someone, unlawfully took the
property of another, killed someone or beat someone. Then all of these
abused persons will receive parts of his (abuser's) Hasanaat. When all
of his (abuser's) Hasanaat have been removed from his record after he
(abuser) pays back for what he owes, then the aggrieved persons' sins
will be transferred to and thrown on him (abuser) and he (abuser) will
be thrown into the Fire." (Related by Muslim and Tirmidhi)
The Virtue of Opposing Gheebah
It is the right of a Muslim to speak up and oppose Gheebah made
against his brother Muslim. He should protect his brother's honor and
defend his reputation in his absence. Should a person fall short in
fulfilling this right, he will be punished sooner or later. To defend
your brother against Gheebah is not something minor. There are clear and
sound Daleels (evidence) that tell us of the virtue of one who fulfills
this obligation. Asmaa' Bint Yazeed said that Allah's Messenger (pbuh)
said: "Whoever defends the honor of his brother in his absence, will be entitled to Allah's protection from the Fire." (Related by Ahmad) The Prophet (pbuh) is also reported to have said: "Whoever defends the honor of his brother, Allah will protect his face from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection." (Related by Ahmad and Tirmidhi)
The person who listens to Gheebah is also a sinner unless he opposes
with his tongue or with his heart if he fears harm. If he can leave the
gathering or interrupt and change the subject, then he should do so. If
he says to the Mughtaab, 'be quiet' but he relishes the gossip in his
heart, then such is hypocrisy. He will not be excused unless he rejects
the gossip with his heart. One should take it seriously and defend his
brethren quite explicitly. The Prophet (pbuh) is reported to have said: "Whoever
witnesses the humiliation of a believer and doesn't support him while
being capable of supporting him, Allah will humiliate him before all the
creatures (on the Day of Judgment)." (Related by Ahmad). Let
not the Mughtaab pollute your gatherings and dishonor the Muslims. You
should defend the honor of the Muslims. If you do not do so, you may be
absent one day and this Mughtaab will be eating of your flesh and you
may not find anyone protecting your honor.
JOKING
"I was only joking". We treat lies as being trivial.
However we are told, "Allah's messenger did not hate anything more than
lying"(Ahmed). The Prophet (SAS) was once asked "Can a Muslim be a coward?""Yes." and then was asked "Can a Muslim be a miser?" and the reply was "Yes.""Can a Muslim be a liar?" The Prophet (SAS) replied "NO! A Muslim can never be a liar". Furthermore, he said, "Truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to paradise...Lying leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the hellfire."
(Bukhari). As we know that one lie leads to another ten lies, which
lead to bad actions. Remember you can lie and think that you have got
away with it but on the day of Judgement your hands, tongue and feet
will bear testimony against you and tell the truth. He (SAS) replied The Prophet (SAS) was then asked,

The Best Example
As we know that the best person to have ever lived is the Prophet
Muhammad (SAS) and he is the best of example for mankind. If we follow
him we can never go wrong. Áisha (RAa) the Prophet's wife described the
Prophet's conduct as follows: "He was neither a obscene talker
nor a user of bad words. He did not shout nor did he repay evil with
evil. He used to forgive people and overlook their sins."
(Tirmidhi). Final Advice: A beautiful saying of the Prophet (SAS) that
will ensure the protection of our tongue. The Messenger of Allah (SAS)
said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP SILENT"